Post-Wedding Rituals in a Tamil Wedding

Indian weddings, as the world knows, are vibrant and full of life. This is especially true of Tamil weddings, which look and feel like a royal affair. Tamil weddings are bright and colourful and are held over more than one day. Tamil weddings are not extravagant but they religiously follow traditions and pay attention to the smallest details. The wedding ceremony is enthralling and feels like a festival. But while grihapravesh, where the bride formally enters the groom’s house, is the most common post-wedding custom in almost every region in India, the Tamils have their own customs and rituals of marking the completion of a marriage. Take a look at the post-wedding rituals if you’re unfamiliar with Tamil matrimony. 

Sammandhi Mariyathai

The first post-wedding ritual, sammandhi mariyathai is where the families of the newlywed couple exchange gifts and clothes as a token of love and appreciation. Gifts may vary according to social or financial status.

Nagoli Vasthra

The groom is presented with a suitcase, new clothes, and a diamond ring.

Laaja Homam

In the laaja homam, the bride’s brother offers puffed rice to the groom, which is then offered to the fire. This is performed by the couple to seek the blessings of Agni (fire) that symbolizes divine power.

Paaladaanam

Here, the newlyweds seek the blessings of the elderly members of the family by touching their feet.

Send-off

The bride’s family prepare an elaborate meal for the groom’s party and for them to take back home. A relative accompanies the bride to her marital home and returns with gifts from the groom’s family.

Grihapravesham

This is the time when the couple reaches the groom’s house after the wedding. The groom’s mother welcomes the couple by performing aarti, as they stand at the doorstep.

Valeyadal

Valeyadal begins with the groom’s sister giving the bride a gift, after which the couple enjoys the wedding games.

Reception Party

This is where the couple finally get to relax after a hectic day. The reception party is typically hosted by the groom’s family, where guests mingle with the newly-weds and convey their greetings. Guests may bring gifts for the couple, unless otherwise specified.

Wedding Night

On the wedding night, the couple is gifted an idol of Krishna by the bride’s mother, among other things. Women sing songs the next morning.

Sadva Puja

The bride serves payasam to the women gathered for a Sadva puja.

Maruvidu Varudal

This is the travelling of the couple to the bride’s house for the first time after the wedding.

Tamil post-wedding rituals are basically the same everywhere, but certain customs may vary from community to community. Tamil weddings are based on the Vedas, the oldest sacred texts of Hinduism, but some weddings may also incorporate a bit of modernity for the bride and the groom. A Tamil wedding is held over two days and is an occasion for all the near as well as faraway friends and relatives to come together and celebrate. Attending a traditional function can prove to be a rather insightful and cultural experience worth having.

What makes a Shia Muslim Wedding so Special?

Most people from the non –Islamic community fail to observe the difference in dogmas between the Sunni and the Shia Muslims. While Muslims from both sects celebrate wedding ceremonies on an elaborate scale there are quite a few notable differences between the two.

The Shia Muslims form the minority group and share their most basic beliefs about religion and God with the Sunni Muslims. However there comes in some conspicuous differences as far as the solemnization of the marriage is concerned.

Here are a few beliefs and rituals of a Shia Muslim matrimonial that make it a truly unique one.

Nikah-al-Mutah

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Shia Muslims, contrary to the Sunni Muslims believe in the temporary arrangement of marriage called “nikah al Mutah”. The bride and the groom enter into a nuptial agreement that is valid for a predetermined period of time. The couple is required to abide by this agreement and stay together after that time only by their own will. This is a major difference between the Shia and Sunni communities of Islam.

Milad

The celebrations start with the elders reciting Islamic songs as blessings for the bride and the groom. Music and dance are an important part during the Shia Muslim matrimonial.

Mayouni

Almost a week before the wedding, the bride is not allowed to step out of the house. Shia Muslims believe that this is the time for the bride to focus on her life and get her familial values right. The bride also starts on a beauty regime for the big day during this week.

Rasm-e-Mehendi

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The Mehendi ceremony is an evening filled with loads of fun and frolic. The bride and the groom with their respective families gather in the bride’s house and sing and dance away to glory. The hands and legs of the bride are beautifully decorated with “Mehendi” art and there are also some small fun-filled competitions between the two sides.

The Nikah

The nikah is the main ceremony where the bride and the groom sign the marriage contract. Unlike the Sunni Muslims, Shia Muslims do not believe in presenting people as witnesses for signing of the contract. Shia Muslims believe that the institution of marriage is scared does not require the intervention of human.

Walima

Walima or the marriage feast plays a key role in Muslim marriages. While the Nikah may be a private affair with the gathering of only family and close friends, the Muslims believe that Walima is an external expression of appreciation and contentment and a grand means of publicising the marriage. Walima is offered before the consummation of the newly married couple.

Rukhsati

Both Sunni and Shia Muslims are ardent believers of the Quran and incorporate the teachings of the holy book into their lives implicitly. As the couple leave the marriage hall, they are made to carry the Quran on their heads. This ritual implies the need to imbibe the goodness of the Islamic preaching into the new phase of their lives.

Shia Muslim weddings are light-hearted, grandiose and a lot of fun. The matrimony of the Shia Muslim couple happens amidst great music, good food and impeccable culture