Indian weddings, as the world knows, are vibrant and full of life. This is especially true of Tamil weddings, which look and feel like a royal affair. Tamil weddings are bright and colourful and are held over more than one day. Tamil weddings are not extravagant but they religiously follow traditions and pay attention to the smallest details. The wedding ceremony is enthralling and feels like a festival. But while grihapravesh, where the bride formally enters the groom’s house, is the most common post-wedding custom in almost every region in India, the Tamils have their own customs and rituals of marking the completion of a marriage. Take a look at the post-wedding rituals if you’re unfamiliar with Tamil matrimony.
The first post-wedding ritual, sammandhi mariyathai is where the families of the newlywed couple exchange gifts and clothes as a token of love and appreciation. Gifts may vary according to social or financial status.
The groom is presented with a suitcase, new clothes, and a diamond ring.
In the laaja homam, the bride’s brother offers puffed rice to the groom, which is then offered to the fire. This is performed by the couple to seek the blessings of Agni (fire) that symbolizes divine power.
Here, the newlyweds seek the blessings of the elderly members of the family by touching their feet.
The bride’s family prepare an elaborate meal for the groom’s party and for them to take back home. A relative accompanies the bride to her marital home and returns with gifts from the groom’s family.
This is the time when the couple reaches the groom’s house after the wedding. The groom’s mother welcomes the couple by performing aarti, as they stand at the doorstep.
Valeyadal begins with the groom’s sister giving the bride a gift, after which the couple enjoys the wedding games.
This is where the couple finally get to relax after a hectic day. The reception party is typically hosted by the groom’s family, where guests mingle with the newly-weds and convey their greetings. Guests may bring gifts for the couple, unless otherwise specified.
On the wedding night, the couple is gifted an idol of Krishna by the bride’s mother, among other things. Women sing songs the next morning.
The bride serves payasam to the women gathered for a Sadva puja.
This is the travelling of the couple to the bride’s house for the first time after the wedding.
Tamil post-wedding rituals are basically the same everywhere, but certain customs may vary from community to community. Tamil weddings are based on the Vedas, the oldest sacred texts of Hinduism, but some weddings may also incorporate a bit of modernity for the bride and the groom. A Tamil wedding is held over two days and is an occasion for all the near as well as faraway friends and relatives to come together and celebrate. Attending a traditional function can prove to be a rather insightful and cultural experience worth having.