WHEN DATING A CONSERVATIVE HINDI SPEAKING BOY

Hindi Dating – In a country of millions, boys and girls are separated and discriminated in the initial stage itself; due to the values, morals, customs traditions and more. Starting from school days when boys and girls were made to sit separately. It was considered bad for a girl to have a male friend and vice versa. Even having a conversation with girls was a total taboo. Boys’ having male friends was natural but becoming friends with a new girl was not an option. With age, this gap kept on increasing and so the discomfort.

 

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If a boy ever tried to be friendly with girls he was laughed at and bullied as well. This brought the notion that a boy and girl can never be friends they can only date one another. Having a crush was also seen as normal but no friendship. So within this conservative set up, the boy grew up seeing women as an object of desire. So when a boy is instilled with such thoughts since childhood about the other sex his perception about dating and relationships and the way he reacts is pretty obvious.

So when you are dating a conservative Hindi speaking boy you must keep all this in mind and the fact that the Indian society is a male dominated one, where men usually run the household.

Ego issues– When dating a conservative Hindi speaking guy you must also bear in mind the male ‘ego’ which is very fragile too. It gets hurts if they see a woman being independent, doing better in work or life. They want the female to be a submissive kind and not one who has her own mind. If this is okay with you only then go ahead with dating a Hindi speaking boy.

Hypocrisy– part of the game- A typically orthodox Indian man would be okay if a girl wears a short dress, drinks and smokes as long as she is not his girlfriend or wife. They have a very narrow mindset instilled in them since they were kids when a child starts forming a perception about life around them. Thus, they are fine with having the company of hot girls at parties or to hang out with but with their partners, they would not like any of this. They would want their girls to be well clad, submissive and homely. This hypocrisy is annoying for some women but others might be fine with it.

So if you are a person who is on the other side of the table or to is stated as one who sees as girls can be on an equivalent platform as boys think about it before you date a conservative Hindi speaking guy.

This is the behavior of Hindi speaking guys is not always seen but most of the Indian men are such so be wary and gauge the boy you are planning to meet and then only take the final call.

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WHEN DATING A CONSERVATIVE HINDI SPEAKING GIRL

Hindi Dating – When you are dating a conservative Hindi speaking girl you first need to determine what the limit is or what is conservative for her. You need to talk it out with her first. If her parents are conservative then they might oppose you marrying her, even to go on a date. Conservative Indian Hindus will never marry a low caste Hindus or non-Hindus.

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Dating is still a taboo in India; even the educated women in India are hesitant about dating. They decline the proposals when asked out. Maybe that’s due to the upbringing they have had. They have high moral standards taught to them by their teachers and parents.

Conversation builders– Even the modern education and affluent environment does not change the mindset. She may be an independent working girl but deep down inside she is a true ‘desi’ person. She might not show her belief in values and traditions but she truly believes in them. If you are dating a Hindi speaking conservative girl we would advise you to take things slowly and gradually. Talk to her about her likes and dislikes. Conversations are a true relationship builder.

Understand her family– If she is the conservative person her family must have had instilled these values in her. Make space for her family. Also always discuss the stuff which matters to her family. If you both are culturally non-similar; discuss and understand her culture and values.

Modesty– If you are dating a Hindi speaking girl who seems to be conservative too do not go overboard be modest in your actions. Modesty is the key to a long and accommodating relationship.

Respect her choices– Always respect your date. If she says no to a date, or to meet someone, or even for a drink you offer. Respect her choices and stand by her. It could be due to a certain way of upbringing or due to orthodox families.

Never compare– Love her as she is and does not ask her to be something which she is not or can’t be. Do not compare her with another woman; be it your mother, sister or any other lady.

When dating a Hindi speaking girl demarcate the boundaries of flirting. Especially so when she is conservative in nature. Never go over the top with her. Be your own true self-don’t try to be someone you aren’t because it won’t take you any further.

Give her your best time and space. This is something every woman would want and cherish. Giving space to her means you mustn’t judge her on the basis of what she wears, eats or drinks. She already had her parents deciding it for her all her life. Letting her be herself is the best thing you can do for her.

A typical Indian conservative Hindi speaking girl already has a lot of boundaries and rules set forth by her parents so it is important that you be her best companion, and you never know when just a date would turn into a lifelong relationship.

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