Things to take care of when dating an Indian Boy

Dating an Indian guy has been a subject of interest for many western women and the results are more apparent these days. There are many marriages and the list continues to grow. The reason why this topic is not glorified or sensationalized is that Indian men like to keep their charms and affairs under the carpet, and the media, both native and western is happy about it. They don’t objectify themselves and definitely don’t allow it by other sources too. This means less of media interest and commercial viability. Hence, you don’t find this aspect of Indian dating, that’s dating an Indian guy or the aftermath, good or bad covering headlines or Page 3 corners. But, here are some things you need to remember while you date a desi munda.

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  • Be cautious and careful about your dignity: Thanks to Bollywood, Indian men of many hue and color are gaining more and more prominence and covetousness amongst western men. That they have some fittest genes is no myth now. They make real good, caring boyfriends who believe in family values. But there’s a side you need to remember always. Indian men don’t like their women being an easy entity to be hit by others. They prefer to be exclusive and special. They want their women to stay away from certain circles and people, not because he is personally against that thing, but he doesn’t like the idea of his girl getting linked to a group, system, circle or idea.
  • Food and sentiment: Indian men grow on and swear by their mother’s food. Almost 99% of them regard the food cooked by their mothers as the world’s safest, purest and best food. More than the gastronomical delight, it’s the satisfaction of the soul and security derived from a simple, mom-made dish that they are mad about. You, in any way, mustn’t hurt this sentiment when he is away from his mother and misses her meals. You also shouldn’t compare that food with anything else since the guys hold that most special. Comparison after marriage is pertinent but during the course of Indian dating, do try to avoid it.
  • Forcing him to adapt to other cuisines: Indian men aren’t that flexible when it comes to cuisines and culinary preferences. They’d rather have you go to their favorite Indian restaurant for some desi meals than hit the swankiest eatery in town providing the best Italian food. They are particular about the delicacies of their land and are unabashed about it. Any resentful talk or attitude for it doesn’t go down well with them.
  • Clothes and fashion: Indian men have their own way and ideas of dressing. While they can wear both ethnic and western apparels with the same poise and confidence, you might ruffle them the wrong way in asking to wear a luxury fit or tuxedo. They can have some reservations.

Your dressing too is very important. Initially, when you both meet up, you can be in your casual or minimal best if you wish. If things take a positive turn and you take it seriously forward, it’d be better to dress in the Indian way, that’s the ethnic way. Minimalism, in this context, doesn’t go down well with the average Indian men.

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Things to take care of when dating a Indian Girl

On the very first note, this topic wouldn’t have been relevant had Indian women got more screen space in western media. We know that we have Bollywood, which is home to beautiful and phenomenal beauties. But when you say Indian culture, there’s this tendency to bring flimsy and shoddy films on the plate. There’s nothing wrong with the cuisines or dresses, just that there are so much more to Indian culture and women that could be talked.

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The shadiest aspect of this India Dating is that you need to move beyond that “I really like Indian curry” statement as it doesn’t go down too well with anyone, especially the girls. Stereotyping things when you have so much more to do is something you need to avoid first while dating an Indian girl.

  • The girl’s parents probably cook the best Indian food or know the best Indian eateries in town: This is a stupid thing to ask for or even think about. Nobody likes stereotypes. Indian women do have champion taste buds and the great appetite, but this question is irrelevant. A north Indian girl will have pretty fair skin and that doesn’t mean her mother is a great cook. Normally, you’d want to meet her parents when the relationship hits gravy-train, and not because you seek to gratify your craving for desi dishes. That’s a perk, though.
  • Saying her parents are conservative have other implications: This has nothing to do with political tents or religiousness. It means that immigrant people came to the foreign shores and kept to themselves owing to the treatment meted out to them. Hence, they are a bit skeptical of meeting new people. They are also a little bit apprehensive and demanding about who their ward is spending time with.
  • The myth and fact of arranged marriage: Arranged marriages very much remain a substantial thing, but they’ve become largely modernized. If the girl’s going for arranged marriage, which is rare in the US, she is likely to meet potential and suitable suitors based on their family background. The girl will have veto power.
  • Sensitivities or sentiments about her culture: This is common with many other people and not just Indian girls. She comes from a beautiful culture, which though diverse and adaptive, can be occasionally overly strict and traditional. Family pressures may be huge and compel her to move in a certain direction. The girl might not tread that path, but it’s a possibility.
  • Cow worship question isn’t a pleasant question: That’s again a blatant stereotype. It’s not an acceptable question and majority of them won’t taste the beef. There are a deep history and faith associated with it.

Even cute toddlers are taught the art of meditation in temples, which are an hour from her place. And please keep in mind in India Dating that she doesn’t carry an ‘Om” on her necklace or room because it’s just trendy. That’s a hodge-podge and pop cultural gimmick the West has made. India has more dialects than you could think and to confine a girl to one early on would be far-fetched.

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