When a Muslim girl decides to keep working after marriage–Merits, and Demerits

The present era is the era of girls. In modern India, girls are not dependent on anyone. They have the potential to fulfill their desires and survive in this world.  After completing their graduation, they choose their career and start working in their desired fields. But this is a fact that every girl has to marry whether she belongs to Hindu or Muslim community. She has to go to their in-laws home. After getting married, certain changes occur in a girl’s life and lots of responsibilities come on her shoulders.

Every religion has some different beliefs for the girls of their community.  Muslims girls have to marry according to the rituals of Muslim matrimony. So, they have to follow different rules. We can’t deny the truth that some religions don’t allow the girls to work after marriage. When a Muslim girl decides to keep working after her marriage, then she has to cross lots of barriers.

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As a coin has two sides, the concept of a working woman also has some merits and demerits. Now we will talk about some them when a Muslim girl who gets married according to Muslim Matrimony rituals, decides to keep working after marriage.

Merits

The advantages of working women generally revolve around personal opportunities, both to develop in one’s career and provide additional financial resources. She does not have to depend on her husband for money. She is able to fulfill all her needs without being accountable to anyone in the family. A married working woman can help her spouse and give their children all the facilities as they don’t have a shortage of money. Also, she gets respect from her husband, family, and the society. She also becomes an expert in balancing her job and home at the same time. If we think from professional perspective, a working girl gets good opportunities to improve her abilities and skills and she also gets a platform for her talent exposure.

Demerits

Before a Muslim girl decides to keep working after marriage, she must carefully think over all of the options and prepare herself for indefeasible changes. While working, many Muslim women come up with the challenges of working in a non-Muslim environment. Their colleagues discuss the personal aspects of their lives often.

As a working girl, she has to make some sacrifices and cut down on some of her leisure activities. If the working girl is a mother also, then many more problems arise.

According to the Islamic perspective, the most important role for a woman is motherhood. But sometimes a working woman can’t properly concentrate on their children due to their busy schedule. In such situation, children get freedom in excess when they don’t see their mother around to stop them from doing any wrong deeds.

A working woman has to work at home also and if there is no helping hand at home then this makes her frustrated and tired. It may affect husband-wife relationship and other family relations.

So, there are few pros and cons for any Muslim woman if she decides to work after her marriage. But the things get managed according to the decision of her life.

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When Planning your Own Muslim Wedding Opulence on a Dime

If you are going to take up Muslim wedding then it is vital that you know what the exact rituals are going to be. Based on all that you should decide as to what all things would be needed. But since the wedding is an important day of your life then you will see that there would be so many things needed. The wedding favors, the return gifts, the costs as required for the arrangements of the guests and so on are some of the things that would be needed for any wedding. The gifts that the parents of the bride would give to the groom and the groom’s family would give gifts to the bride. These things are quite common in Muslim matrimonial.

The luxurious things that you can avoid

In every wedding, you will see that there would be so many things. But when you want to reduce the costs then you must become alerted and think as to what all things would help you. Of course, right planning can help you in doing all that. Well, it is better that if you can arrange your wedding in the off-season then you can save a good amount of money on the bookings. Also, when you take help of the sale and bargain as available you will find that there would be a good amount of savings that you can make.

Every wedding including the Muslim matrimonial should have its own limits and thus, you must always keep up with the budget. If you go out of that then you would only feel bad. It is, therefore, vital that you know how would the cost saving help you. When you save on the costs you can take up so many things in life. In fact, after the wedding, you will see that the expenses would actually increase and your life would have more of reliabilities.

Plan your life and your Muslim wedding

When you really are planning the wedding on your own then it’s a good thing. If you appoint and hire someone who is a good wedding planner then he would have his own charges. It is, therefore, vital that you take up things on your own and try to save such extra costs that would otherwise be levied. You can just know from the grannies and elders that what exactly you have been looking for and then based on all that you can plan the entire show on your own. You can make the preparations for all sorts of wedding venues. Just make sure that you know how to make the entire wedding special. This is something that would really provide you the perfect things and options. Check out all the things that you find would be relevant. Your special day is surely quite special for you. But are you ready for all sorts of expenses that would come up on account of the wedding ceremony? Just be creative and use your wits.

All you need to know about the Big Fat Muslim Wedding

Muslim weddings are steeped in tradition and culture with numerous ceremonies to celebrate the bond of marriage. We share with all you need to know about a Muslim matrimony to help you plan your own special one.

Pre Wedding Ceremonies – Like every Indian marriage, Muslim weddings also have many pre wedding rituals to mark the start of a wedding. Istikhara is the first pre wedding ceremony. In this ceremony the religious head asks for Allah’s consent to hold the wedding. Soon after this ceremony, the groom’s mother goes to the bride’s house with Imam-Zamin, a silver or gold coin presented in a silk cloth. This is tied on the bride’s arm. She also offers sweets as a mark of a good omen. Following this ceremony is the Mangni, where the groom’s family goes to the bride’s house with sweets and fruits.

Mehendi of Soha Ali Khan
Mehendi of Soha Ali Khan

Next in line is the Manjha ritual in which the bride wears yellow clothes and the female relatives of the bride anoint her with turmeric paste to add that glow on the special day. Now the bride is supposed to stay indoors till the wedding day. The Mehendi function usually takes place on the eve of the wedding where henna is applied on hands and feet of the bride to give an added touch of color and beauty to the gorgeous bride.

Sanchaq is the last of pre wedding rituals wherein the groom’s family gives clothes and jewelry for the bride that she is to wear at the Nikah and Chauthi.

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Soha and Kunal’s Wedding

Wedding Rituals –The main wedding ceremony starts with the Nikah where the two religious heads representing the two families perform the ceremony. Mehar, a compulsory amount given to the bride by the groom’s family is decided upon here. Thereafter, the Maulavi asks both the bride and the groom thrice for their consent to the wedding. A Nikahnama or marriage contract is signed by the couple to legalize the wedding. Once the actual wedding ritual is complete, the maulavis recite the Khutba- a religious discourse. They are showered with blessings of all followed by a lavish dinner. Thereafter, Aarsi Mushaf takes place wherein the couple is seated facing each other with their heads covered by a piece of cloth. The Holy Quran and a mirror are kept between them and they are supposed to see each other for the first time through that.

Post Wedding Rituals – The post wedding customs commence with the Rukhsat where the bride’s family bids a teary goodbye to her before she leaves for her new home. The groom’s mother welcomes the new bride at the house placing a Quran above her head as she enters the house for the first time after the wedding. Thereafter, the groom’s family hosts a Valima or a grand feast celebrating the wedding. Lastly, the couple visits the bride’s family in an official ceremony called Chauthi usually on the fourth day of the wedding; first time as a married couple.

Every religion is marked with traditions and customs especially on joyous occasions like weddings. A Muslim matrimony also has a strong cultural saga that is expressed in a beautiful way at their weddings.

What makes a Shia Muslim Wedding so Special?

Most people from the non –Islamic community fail to observe the difference in dogmas between the Sunni and the Shia Muslims. While Muslims from both sects celebrate wedding ceremonies on an elaborate scale there are quite a few notable differences between the two.

The Shia Muslims form the minority group and share their most basic beliefs about religion and God with the Sunni Muslims. However there comes in some conspicuous differences as far as the solemnization of the marriage is concerned.

Here are a few beliefs and rituals of a Shia Muslim matrimonial that make it a truly unique one.

Nikah-al-Mutah

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Shia Muslims, contrary to the Sunni Muslims believe in the temporary arrangement of marriage called “nikah al Mutah”. The bride and the groom enter into a nuptial agreement that is valid for a predetermined period of time. The couple is required to abide by this agreement and stay together after that time only by their own will. This is a major difference between the Shia and Sunni communities of Islam.

Milad

The celebrations start with the elders reciting Islamic songs as blessings for the bride and the groom. Music and dance are an important part during the Shia Muslim matrimonial.

Mayouni

Almost a week before the wedding, the bride is not allowed to step out of the house. Shia Muslims believe that this is the time for the bride to focus on her life and get her familial values right. The bride also starts on a beauty regime for the big day during this week.

Rasm-e-Mehendi

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The Mehendi ceremony is an evening filled with loads of fun and frolic. The bride and the groom with their respective families gather in the bride’s house and sing and dance away to glory. The hands and legs of the bride are beautifully decorated with “Mehendi” art and there are also some small fun-filled competitions between the two sides.

The Nikah

The nikah is the main ceremony where the bride and the groom sign the marriage contract. Unlike the Sunni Muslims, Shia Muslims do not believe in presenting people as witnesses for signing of the contract. Shia Muslims believe that the institution of marriage is scared does not require the intervention of human.

Walima

Walima or the marriage feast plays a key role in Muslim marriages. While the Nikah may be a private affair with the gathering of only family and close friends, the Muslims believe that Walima is an external expression of appreciation and contentment and a grand means of publicising the marriage. Walima is offered before the consummation of the newly married couple.

Rukhsati

Both Sunni and Shia Muslims are ardent believers of the Quran and incorporate the teachings of the holy book into their lives implicitly. As the couple leave the marriage hall, they are made to carry the Quran on their heads. This ritual implies the need to imbibe the goodness of the Islamic preaching into the new phase of their lives.

Shia Muslim weddings are light-hearted, grandiose and a lot of fun. The matrimony of the Shia Muslim couple happens amidst great music, good food and impeccable culture