Golden Rules To Follow To Stay Safe On Matrimonial Portals

The rapid boom in technology over the past few decades has proven to be nothing less than a boon for everyone. Internet, at present times, has become an utmost requirement for us to run our daily lives.  From simple decisions like what to cook for dinner tonight to life changing ones like shadi, we have become very dependent on the internet for help in all aspects. The past few years have witnessed the cropping up of many online matrimonial sites and portals, which make match making an easy and comfortable experience, right within the comfort of your home. As arranged marriages are still more popular in India, we have as many as 1500 registered matrimonial sites, which help you find the perfect match! However, while there are many success stories related to matrimonial sites, the danger associated with the same cannot be overlooked. There have been many cases of fraud reported in recent times, which have raised a question on the safety measures associated with such sites. With all this in mind, one needs to make sure that he or she follow a set of certain simple rules, which allow a safe and hassle free experience in regard to matrimonial sites. Some of the golden rules to follow are as under:

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  • Choose a site with good privacy settings: While selecting a site to make a profile on, make sure to go in for sites which have good and fool proof privacy settings. Keep your settings such that only the profiles which suit yours are able to approach you. If possible, keep your photographs protected as well till the time you don’t know the person on the other end much.
  • Communicate through chatting in the initial phase: if a person with a suitable profile approaches you, make sure to keep the communication with him or her restricted to online chatting only during the initial phase. Only once you have corresponded with the person for a good amount of time should you go ahead with sharing numbers and email ids.
  • Do not divulge too many details: make sure not to give out too many personal details about yourself as well as your family till the time the match has not been fixed. In certain cases, such information can be used against you in future.
  • Never give financial details: Never ever give your financial details like your bank account details, credit and debit card numbers etc. to the person till the time you don’t know him well. As such too, your financial detail is your personal matter which, at no point should be discussed.
  • Avoid honey traps: If a person seems too good to be true and starts asking for your details or wants to meet you during the initial few chats itself, then it is time to get alarmed! You might be on the verge of becoming a victim of a honey trap. If you feel that something is not right, report the profile immediately.

These golden rules will assure your safety while you are on a look out for your soul mate. Wish you all the luck!

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How To Identify Which Portals Are Safe For Matrimonial Alliances

We are now well into the 17th year of the new millennium, that is the 2000’s! The past two decades have witnessed a rapid growth and evolution when it comes to the growth of information and technology. Each and every aspect of our lives has been touched by technology in one way or the other. Even our personal life is no exception. With internet becoming an essential part of our daily lives and living, it comes as no surprise that or personal relation matters like dating and marriage too have become heavily reliant on the same.

In India, where arranged marriage is still preferred over love matches, the coming up of various matrimonial sites is nothing less than a boon. Gone are the days where the families of the eligible girls and boys had to do the running around in order to find a perfect match for their loved one. The families can do the same while sitting in the comfort of their home, all thanks to matrimonial sites. However, like all other things, matrimonial sites too have their own set of good and bad. With over 1500 matrimonial sites available online, it becomes a necessity to choose the correct site, so as not to suffer in the future. Therefore, we have certain tips for you, which will help you identify portals which are safe and can lead to you finding a good match for your shadi:

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  • Go for popular sites: rather than going ahead and picking up any site to put your portfolio on, make sure to choose a site which is popular and reliable. Make sure to first go through the customer reviews and success rates of every site, before choosing the site which is most suitable for you.
  • Say no to pre-made software sites: if you go online and search for matrimonial software’s, you will find plenty of the same. Avoid making profiles on sites which are made using such software’s, as they are most vulnerable to hacking and malware. Making profiles on such sites can put your security at risk and at the same time, lead to destructive viruses entering your computer.
  • Good privacy settings: choose a site that has good privacy settings. Make sure to keep your settings such that only those people are able to contact you, who match your profile requirement. Also, choose a site which helps you keep your profile such that even if you chat with another suitable profile, your picture and other details are not visible till the time you approve for the same.

With these tips at hand, you are sure to land with a site that is the most suitable and the safest option for you when you are out there, looking for your perfect match. As they say, it is better to be safe now than sorry later. So make sure to do all the security checks beforehand, before taking a plunge in the matrimonial site pool. All the best!

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Indian Government’s Great Steps Towards A Safer Matrimonial Site Experience

India is country where a lot of sacredness and respect is associated with the word marriage. For Indians, marriage is not just a certificate provided by the society for two people to spend their life together, but a heartfelt commitment, in which both the people involved; vow to remain by each other, in sickness or health, till death takes them apart. With such serenity involved with the word shadi, it in no way, can be taken lightly. In India, even in present times, arranged marriages hold more popularity in comparison to their love counterparts. Here, nearly 90 percent of the people still hand over the honor of selecting a suitable match for them to their parents and family. Hence in such cases, since the beginning of time, people go in for various means in order to find a perfect match for their beloved son or daughter. With the rapid evolution in terms of technology, one trend which is rapidly becoming popular over the past two decades is that of finding matches through online matrimonial sites.  However, in recent times, these sites have been misused by certain people, which have in a way, defeated the very purpose, for which it had been created. Many a times, one comes across profiles, which seen too good to be true. However, when approached on personal chats, many such users tend to use these sites as dating sites, where they are only interested in meeting people and not in marriage. There have even been times when people have duped others by taking their personal details by approaching the through matrimonial sites, and using them against them in future.

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Keeping all such things in mind, the Government of India has recently decided to come up with laws to keep online matrimonial sites and their usage under check. The government plans to introduce rules to make sure that matrimonial sites are used for no other purpose than marriage. This great step by the government is likely to include the following points:

  • Proper background check of the user: The matrimonial sites are now required to ensure the “intent” of any user who has recently made a profile on the site. Along with this, the sites need to make sure that the information provided by the user is correct and not fake. Only after full background check and authentication by the site will a user be able to make a profile.
  • No dating on matrimonial sites: keeping in mind the sanctity attached to marriage, the government is likely to pass a rule as per which matrimonial sites cannot be used as dating platforms, like their Tinder counterparts.
  • Ensuring privacy and safety of user: the matrimonial sites have to now ensure that their security and privacy settings ensure full safety of the user and that, the user can only be approached by people as per his or her liking as mentioned in the profile.

The formation of rules for matrimonial sites is certainly a great step towards safer online match making. Let’s hope that such sites will make finding your soul mate a pleasurable experience.

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Creative Ideas to Announce a Wedding

As the saying goes marriages are made in heaven, choose your heaven mate at Shadi matrimony site, when decided announce it in a special way, to help you with the announcement, check out ideas listed. Every bride and groom would like to announce the big news about their wedding to the friends and family in a special way. It should be reflection of both your personalities and the love and bond you share. We help you with some unique wedding announcement ideas to make it full of fun and surprise.

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Old is Gold- You can go retro in announcing your wedding to close family and friends and the world at large. Get a picture of the two of you with a customized line saying- We are getting married! Make a postcard out of it and post it to all those who you care for. It will bring back the old world charm of postcards and at the same time let everyone know about it.

Photoshop it- In today’s day and age of virtual advancements, the best way to proclaim to the world about your wedding is through the internet. You can photoshop some of your best pictures as a couple and write a note under it stating that you’re getting hitched! Email it to all your family and friends. It is the fastest way of telling everyone about your big day!

Film it right– You could make a small video with the two of you and share the good news about the wedding ceremony with all. This will be a keepsake for you and your loved ones. You could make the video comic, entertaining or sentimental. 

Comic Ideas- Get whacky with your wedding announcement and create a comic book themed wedding announcement. You could make it a single page announcement with a short story about the two of you or let it run into a small booklet with pictures in comic form, narrating the entire love saga. If you are artistic you can sketch out the comic yourself or else hire a professional.

Go Green- Incorporate nature into your wedding announcement and write a small note on a beautiful maple leaf announcing your wedding date and post it along with a picture of the couple to all the near and dear ones. This romantic wedding announcement message will surely have some teary eyes.

Secret decoder messages- Get creative with your wedding announcement and send save the date cards on a postcard with invisible ink that can only be read with the help of special glasses. This will add to the mystery of the card and also dramatize the whole episode.

Choose from any of these unique and inspiring ideas to announce your wedding and start off the wedding preparations with a bang! They will surely have some unique ways to make wedding announcements as well.

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Wedding Ideas From Bhuvneshwar-Nupur Wedding

After months of gossips and speculations, the talented and fierce cricketer of India, Bhuvneshwar Kumar or fondly called Bhuvi by his team mates, has finally bade goodbye to this bachelorhood. He tied the knot with the very pretty Nupur Nagar, who is his childhood sweetheart. While the main wedding ceremony was an intimate homely affair, low key with close friends and family members as attendees coming to this hometown Meerut on November 23, the wedding reception was the grand one. The entire Indian cricket team was on the guest list and it was held on December 5th in the Delhi.

Well, for cricket as popular and followed as Bhuvi, it was expected that the wedding bells will be loud and there would be immense media glare. The couple shared some their best pictures and they amazing.

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  • The marriage diaries: In a candid conversation with a leading marriage and lifestyle portal, the talented portal revealed that they have known each other since he was thirteen of years and Nupur, who is engineer now, was eleven. The fast bowler is in complete awe of the girl and his beautiful mehendi snaps clearly trumpet this excitement and happiness to marry the love of his life. If you the wedding pictures, you’ll find that the bride reflects her personal demeanor and preference by donning a delicate and subtle, yet beautiful and elegant orange and green lehenga. The entire look was clean and fresh and she wore minimal makeup. A very noteworthy thing is that she wore the least amount of jewelry.
  • The wedding tales: The pre-wedding rituals had the cricket decked up in a black kurta performing the ceremonies. He wore a saffron thread on the forehead and tucks it to the ear. It was the time of aarti. On the wedding day, he was the typical Uttar Pradesh groom, smart and flamboyant. He chose to adorn a golden sherwani paired with red-colored headgear or padgi. The padgi was a standout too as it had gems, beads and feathers making up the frill. Suited to customs, it does give the impression of a royal wedding affair and a prince coming to wed his beloved.
  • Taking things on: On the other hand, the beaming bride was looking like a princess in her red-colored, opulent lehenga. The stunning apparel contained gold embroidery on it. So, right from her jewelry to her makeup that she wore, minimal was the word to define the output. It was precise and to the point; no overdoing. The elegant chooda was looking very sweet too.
  • Enter the groom: This might not come as a surprise for many living in the Hindi heartland. The groom entered the venue on a horse, his ride or sawari. It’s the quintessential Indian groom’s ride in a big, fat, Indian wedding. Apart from the floral garlands and the plastic ribbons adorning his neckline till the hips, there was a money-garland too, full of Rs 500 notes.

It’s not an unusual sight as many grooms in that region do that as part of the customs and traditions. All in all, it was a great winter wedding.

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Shadi And The Glorious Days For Indian Homes

A typical Indian shadi has a lot of buzz and excitement attached to it! The moment any member of the family comes of age, the over concerned relatives start bombarding him or her with the typical question, “Aur fir, shadi kab kar rahe ho?”  even the poor family members are not spared, who are often bombarded with questions like, “Koi nazar mein hai?” or “raunaquen kab laga rahe ho?”  While most of these relatives with their endless list of questions may come across as irritating at times, one cannot deny the fact that behind all the questions, they are mainly hiding their anxiety and excitement. They are mainly looking forward to that big fat Indian wedding, where they can have the time of their life with their long lost friends and relatives. And while at it, we need to remember one thing for sure, which is that no Indian wedding is complete, without the involvement of relatives and friends in the same. The moment the wedding is fixed, the atmosphere all around a typical Indian home changes. The would be bride or groom suddenly become the most important people in the world, who are showered with love and care by their relatives. Let us take a sneak-peek into a typical Indian home, which is gearing up for the big, fat Indian wedding:

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  • The pampered bride and groom: just the fact that their wedding is fixed make the would-be bride and groom the most important people in the world. They are showered with love by their family members. From buying clothes and accessories of their choice to preparing their favourite food every single day, they are actually spoilt rotten to the core before the D-day.
  • Happiness all around: the whole atmosphere around the house takes a happy tone when the wedding is fixed. Everyone is happy about the fact that their beloved family member is about to embark on a new journey, which will impact his or her life. All want to bless them and wish them all the best.
  • The emotional drama: we Indians as humans are an emotional breed. The moment the wedding is fixed, the immediate family, especially mothers of the bride and groom, suddenly become very emotional. From the time their child took his or her first step to the time they started college, they start recalling all events and shed tearful rivers for the same.
  • The hustle bustle: the mundane routine of any household takes a drastic change once the marriage is fixed. Everyone seems to be in a rush, making preparations for the approaching D-day. While half of the people involved don’t even know what they are doing, they still want to contribute towards the preparations in any way possible.

A typical Indian wedding is a spectacle that you need to see to believe. With so many rituals, traditions and involvement of family members, it is unique in every aspect in comparison to   weddings worldwide. Don’t miss on attending it if you get a chance.

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Shadi And The Fun it Brings For Families

The great Indian wedding tamasha  is an actual celebration of life. With all its colourful fun and frolic, it is a perfect platform where you get to meet your long lost relatives and friends, whom you have not met for ages. As having a huge gala and gathering of friends goes synonymous with the typical Indian shadi, the family of both the bride as well as the groom are in for one hell of a roller coaster ride. From meeting relatives, looking into their comfort, to pacifying the angry ones, all comes as a part and parcel of the big fat Indian wedding. All these things and anecdotes leave life- long beautiful memories for the couple as well as their families. Following are the situations that are bound to occur in a typical Indian wedding:

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  • Meeting platform for long-lost relatives: well, you might not have met or seen them for years together, but when it comes to a wedding, you are bound to invite your relatives. Once they arrive, the whole wedding and the functions get centred around them. While some will be co-operative, others might just add to problem. By taking them all in a stride, the immediate family of the bride and groom is always appreciated in the end for providing a lovely opportunity for all the family members to meet.
  • Making stay arrangements: one of the primary objective of families is to ensure a comfortable stay to their guests. For this, many a times the younger ones of the family are assigned special duties to ensure that all the relatives who have arrived are comfortable and get all that they need.
  • The In-house functions: while it has somewhat become mandatory to have elaborate functions to mark a wedding, the in house intimate get together with your near and dear ones have a charm of their own. Sitting with your close relatives and friends, singing and dancing the night away on the beats of a traditional dhol has a unique charm of their own, which no DJ can ever match.
  • The small fights and making up sessions: You cannot make everyone happy. In every Indian wedding, there is bound to be a relative who might not be very happy with the arrangements that you have made. So start the small tiffs with the family members, which are later resolved in a jiffy, over a cup of tea and a big bear hugs sessions. Priceless!
  • The family jokes: Every family is bound to have a set of certain jokes and anecdotes, that only the close family members understand. Once all the relatives get together, these age old jokes are bound to crop up, leading to various funny and memorable situations.

Indian wedding are incomplete without the involvement of families. So try and make it the most important event of your life, keeping your near and dear ones close by. All the best!

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Different Weddings, One Shadi

The best and perhaps the most interesting part of Indian weddings is that despite having the rituals from the same Vedic system and belief, the implementations vary. The Shadi remains the same. You can call it saath phere or saptapadi or saath paak in different languages, but the meaning and purport remain the same. If you’ve ever been to an Indian wedding, you can get curious about the proceedings or what’s going to happen. Shadi is the common aspect or element of all Indian weddings. It’s the main ceremony symbolizing the holy union of two souls.

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Traditionally Indian weddings last for an average for 3-4 days. On the first night, you have the priest performing the ganesh pooja, a pre-wedding ritual that usually takes place at the couple’s home. The close relatives and bridal party come in attendance.

  • Finding the common link: A handful of common ceremonies that you always enjoy are the henna or mehendi ceremony. The Haldi or gaaye holud or snanam is another momentous function celebrating the day when the bride lets her hair down at her home and the women in her family helps her. She is adorned for the big day. Sangeet is another favorite ceremony. It includes dance extravaganza and music. There are many other wedding games and fun traditions designed to bring the newlyweds closer or if it’s an arranged marriage, then break the ice between them. It helps to make a traditional setting look beautiful. The families also get comfortable with each other.
  • The var mala ceremony: It’s one of the most important wedding rituals without which a Shadi is not complete. It’s also called Jaimala and primarily involves the couple exchanging garlands. Like all other rituals and customs, it’s another significant ceremony finding much reference in the Vedic fold as well. This ancient practice is observed in India under different names. The ceremony takes place right after the groom enters the venue of the wedding. He comes with his baarat, a common feature in a shadi.
  • The tilak ceremony: Also known under various names, the Tilak ritual is one of the initial wedding traditions in India. Initially, it used to be held once month prior to the actual wedding day. However, times have changed and people have become very flexible with these things. The time and date of this ceremony is determined and decided as per the convenience of both families. To be precise, you can conclude that commencement of the concerned wedding alliance starts from this ritual.
  • Vidai ceremony: Now, who doesn’t know or have across this enduringly touching ceremony? Practically all individuals dream of getting married one day or the other. After you attain maturity and adulthood, the search for the perfect someone begins. One of the main post-wedding ceremonies, Vidai takes places right after the completion of wedding rituals. The parents and family members of the bride bids her farewell and the teary-eyed, emotional bride says them bye as she steps into the car with her husband, heading for her new home.

There are other post-wedding rituals lined up at the house of the groom.

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Shadi: Big Days of Weddings

Indian weddings are primarily and popularly imagined and acclaimed as stupendous spectacles. Well, the image is surely true and real, despite the fact that it represents a small of the total population and carried forth by the world of the prosperous and the super-rich. Shadi translates into a span of joy, merriment, food and revelry for two families and friends. The interesting thing is that even people with humble income or those in the lower-middle class strata; they also leave no tables unturned in ensuring that their wedding matches up to the world-renowned tag associated with Indian weddings, the big, fat Indian wedding.

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If you look at any Shaadi in the Indian sub-continent or Indians living abroad, you will see that the ceremonies begin quite early.

  • The engagement: Both the families come together to choose an auspicious date for the marriage. They select the day for formal betrothal of the girl and guy. The priest selects this date and the engagement ceremonies remain uniform across majority of ethnicities and religions across the country, only differing in details and nuances of the rituals. The exchange of rings is not compulsory in all regions of the country. The Muslims of India follow the marriage customs as per delineation in the Quran. Hindu engagement functions vary across different ethnicities and states. The various terms associated with it is Sagai, mangi, Nischayam, Ashirbadd etc.
  • A little backdrop: Indian weddings are definitely one of the primary occasions celebrated in the culture with unbridled zeal and enthusiasm. Apart from the different Indian food, ceremonies, music and dance coming from different parts of the country, the unified presentation form a huge part of the grand Shadi You also have little, often quirky details and fun wedding games that vary from one ceremony to the other. The weddings are ritual and religion based and they are also meaningful, emotional and beautiful. These are reasons why they generally span for a few days.
  • Rituals and customs: Wedding ceremonies do differ from one religion to another. For example, the quintessential Hindu wedding entails the symbolic and sacramental saath pheras or seven rounds across the holy fire in the wedding ritual, the kanyadan ceremony, the Vedic ritual denoting the bride being presented to the groom by her father or both parents, or the wearing of the sacred Mangalsutra and the famous baraat. The pre-wedding rituals are also fascinating across cultures.
  • The regional discourse: The rituals differ within various communities like the Jains, Malyalees, Gujrathis, Punjabis, Bengalis, Rajputs, marathis, Sindhis, Telegus and so on. There are different regional traditions and cultural flavors that add their unique flavor and color to mark the weddings.
  • The diversified context: It remains to be seen that marriages also involve the varied Indian wedding traditions and ceremonies of other faiths like Parsi and Muslim weddings. For instance, Muslims have their wedding ceremony starting with Mehendi ceremony. The beautiful Nikaah ceremony awaits and the bride is all decked up just like other religions.

Indian wedding ceremonies offer a multi-level result and differ massively from one another. That’s the reason why they stretch for so long.

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The Shadi Benefits

The marriage vows or Shadi form the epicenter of a wedding ceremony. The couples utter the words as an expression and manifestation of their future promises and intentions that they wish to emphasize on and uphold in their marital life. The vows or pheras cover the usually accepted and sanctified dos and don’ts of a happy married life. Hence, they cover almost all the things. These include individual roles and duties to the promise of placing each other’s welfare first. Two persons promise to bear the task of rearing a family jointly and do the right thing for their kids.

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Apart from the social, financial and overall emotional benefits of marriage, it also helps you to become a better individual, more dutiful and serious.

  • The mutual understanding and equality: There is a reason why people focus a lot of The promise to enter the holy union as friends and as equals defines the spirit of marriage. You don’t submit to some threadbare defined roles. It’s just for the Hindus conducting a Vedic wedding ritual. It exists across all cultural spectrums. The wedding vows highlight the same objectives, mutual respect and lifelong commitment. Marriage is a beautiful bond that is supposed to be everlasting and the chain of vows taken during the shadi reinforce the bride and groom’s intent and pursuit of staying together through the ups and downs of life. As they say, till death do us part is the narrative.
  • Sharing life: Well, staying single isn’t as poppy or appealing as it seems to be. At some point in life, people may feel the need to be taken cared of or loved. You’d wish to have someone by your side to share your happy and sad moments, to share your joys and success, downfalls and failures, and someone to do things side by side. You also wish someone to go with you on vacations and some to share life in all its myriad aspects with you. With marriage, you have this special someone in your life with whom you can share all experiences and feelings. When you have that somebody to share these stuffs, you get to know what’s more pivotal for your relationship and for you. It’ll help you to realize your true value, dreams and you can then strive to achieve them.
  • The financial part: One of the most obvious parts of marriage benefits, you aren’t just earning more money but you can also reduce your expenses, saving extra money. If both the wife and husband earn, the two incomes enhance your financial security. Besides companionship, marriage also gives you financial stability. Married people can purchase assets sans much legal hassles.
  • Religious and social acceptance: If you want your society to approve of your relationship, the best thing is to get married. Most religions don’t approve premarital sex or cohabiting. When you get married in front of your parents, family members and friends, exchanging vows and affirming your lifelong commitment to one another, society will recognize this union.

The additional thing is it’s very good for your mental health and affirms a safer and better sex life as well.

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