5 Tips for Planning a Tamil Haldi

Haldi would be the foremost ritual of a wedding that will be hosted either a day before of a wedding or on a wedding morning. Haldi is considered to be one of the traditional rituals of a wedding and it will be organized by both the bride and groom sides separately by inviting their guests.

The reason for conducting haldi during wedding is that, haldi is deemed as the privileged and godly thing. So, it is strongly trusted that, the wedding bride and groom will never be surrounded by any evil things once wedding haldi is done.

Generally, Tamil Matrimonial sites do not have any tips at all for hosting a haldi function. You could visit other websites for that. But if you want some dashing tips for planning a Tamil haldi, just continue reading the article.

Tamil Wedding Haldi
Tamil Wedding Haldi (PC: makemylove.com)

Guest List of Haldi
As far as haldi is concerned, it is not vital to invite all the guests and friends of your family. Rather, it is sufficient to invite the elderly wedded couples and other close relatives of the bride or groom like uncles, aunts, sisters and brothers. So, prepare the guest list accordingly and invite the guest. Either friends may or may not be called for this event. That depends on the hosts of the wedding.

Haldi Dresses
Haldi would be yellow in color, so the bridegroom will be asked to wear the yellow colored outfits for the haldi function. Make ready the haldi dresses rather hurrying in last minute to get the outfits. Being it a traditional ritual, it should be started and ended up on time.  So, buy the haldi outfits while buying the wedding dresses.

Haldi Decorations
Simple decoration is enough as far as haldi is concerned. You could find this point by visiting the Tamil Matrimonial sites. Since, the matrimony websites include some dos and don’ts of the haldi event. By reading that, you would come to know about what should be done for haldi decoration.

Haldi Preparation
Instead buying the haldi simply from the stores and make it available for the wedding haldi ritual. You should think preparing the haldi on your own. For preparing the haldi, you have to use haldi (turmeric powder), rose water and other essence. By mixing all the three things, you have to make it as a paste. The haldi paste should be in semi solid form, so that, people could able to take that in their hands.

Senior Women
Haldi event will be conducted separately by both the bride and the groom on their home. Despite of, either it might be a groom side or bride side, but four or five senior wedded women should be invited to the haldi event without fail. And the wedded women should start the event by applying haldi on the hands, forehead, cheeks and toes of the bride or groom. Then, the parents and relatives of the bride or groom will continue applying haldi on the bride or groom one by one as per the priorities.

Post-Wedding Rituals in a Tamil Wedding

Indian weddings, as the world knows, are vibrant and full of life. This is especially true of Tamil weddings, which look and feel like a royal affair. Tamil weddings are bright and colourful and are held over more than one day. Tamil weddings are not extravagant but they religiously follow traditions and pay attention to the smallest details. The wedding ceremony is enthralling and feels like a festival. But while grihapravesh, where the bride formally enters the groom’s house, is the most common post-wedding custom in almost every region in India, the Tamils have their own customs and rituals of marking the completion of a marriage. Take a look at the post-wedding rituals if you’re unfamiliar with Tamil matrimony. 

Sammandhi Mariyathai

The first post-wedding ritual, sammandhi mariyathai is where the families of the newlywed couple exchange gifts and clothes as a token of love and appreciation. Gifts may vary according to social or financial status.

Nagoli Vasthra

The groom is presented with a suitcase, new clothes, and a diamond ring.

Laaja Homam

In the laaja homam, the bride’s brother offers puffed rice to the groom, which is then offered to the fire. This is performed by the couple to seek the blessings of Agni (fire) that symbolizes divine power.

Paaladaanam

Here, the newlyweds seek the blessings of the elderly members of the family by touching their feet.

Send-off

The bride’s family prepare an elaborate meal for the groom’s party and for them to take back home. A relative accompanies the bride to her marital home and returns with gifts from the groom’s family.

Grihapravesham

This is the time when the couple reaches the groom’s house after the wedding. The groom’s mother welcomes the couple by performing aarti, as they stand at the doorstep.

Valeyadal

Valeyadal begins with the groom’s sister giving the bride a gift, after which the couple enjoys the wedding games.

Reception Party

This is where the couple finally get to relax after a hectic day. The reception party is typically hosted by the groom’s family, where guests mingle with the newly-weds and convey their greetings. Guests may bring gifts for the couple, unless otherwise specified.

Wedding Night

On the wedding night, the couple is gifted an idol of Krishna by the bride’s mother, among other things. Women sing songs the next morning.

Sadva Puja

The bride serves payasam to the women gathered for a Sadva puja.

Maruvidu Varudal

This is the travelling of the couple to the bride’s house for the first time after the wedding.

Tamil post-wedding rituals are basically the same everywhere, but certain customs may vary from community to community. Tamil weddings are based on the Vedas, the oldest sacred texts of Hinduism, but some weddings may also incorporate a bit of modernity for the bride and the groom. A Tamil wedding is held over two days and is an occasion for all the near as well as faraway friends and relatives to come together and celebrate. Attending a traditional function can prove to be a rather insightful and cultural experience worth having.